Friday, May 29, 2009

If You Want a "C"

Since my lovely hosts had been in California for the last week a shopping trip for groceries was in order. We left all 6 kids with the dad and left. We were a little joyfully silly. We loaded that cart to ridiculous heights. It was a fun "alone" excursion.

While there, a young woman was searching through the asian food sections and stopped us as we walked by;
"Excuse me, do either of you know anything about Thai food?"
"I do," I answered, "What do you need to know?"

"My sister has to turn in a project tomorrow and needs a sample of Thai food to share with the class."

Okay, so we have a conversation regarding what's available, what's Japanese and Chinese and what her true options are.
"So, could she just pour coconut into dixie cups and pass them out?"

Hmmm....I answered bluntly, "Sure, but only if you want a bad grade, that's obviously a cop-out."
She put her hand on her chest like I had stabbed her, "Wow that was honest."

I had to laugh a little. The sister in question is a Freshman, no, you can't just pass out a cup of cocnut milk.
I told her to mix the coconut milk with the Jasmine rice, or to use the rice with the bottled peanut sauce. She seemed relieved.

She thanked me for helping her, and being honest. It took little of my time to help someone out.
I just hope her sister gets a better grade because of it.

Wednesday, May 27, 2009

Red Asphault

The road to Idaho, from my house, includes 4 states; California, Nevada, Oregon, and then of course, Idaho. During our brief encounter with Oregon Something odd happened. The pavement there was light in color, not blacktop. We rounded a curve and came across something in the road, like maybe a truck had dumped some red bark, or ground covering. I expected to feel it crunch under the tires. I heard, and felt, nothing, but the road became more and more intensely red, and then I smelled it....
My mind raced to find the scent in my memory banks, it was, "gutting fish", a very distinct, not unpleasant but odd smell.

Why was I smelling it now?
Why was the road pure red?
Why was the bark hopping!?!?!

Eeeewwwwwwwwww. We think it was little frogs, thousands of them. The road was solid red, and there was nothing we could do. The lead car in our caravan slowed down, but we couldn't just stop in the middle. We had to keep driving over them.
I have never seen anything like it. I hope I never have to drive through anything like it again.


Tuesday, May 26, 2009

Thankful Ten on Tuesday-Guest Blogger!

And now, ladies and gentlemen, I would like to introduce our guest blogger for today, Bethany Zabrosky from Falling out of the Wardrobe.......

Helloooo Carol's readers! I am honored to be blogging for today's Thankful Ten on Tuesday! And without further ado, here it is!

Thankful Ten on Tuesday...10 Beverages I am Thankful For

10. Squirt.....I love Squirt. It is best in the 20 ounce bottle and I am thankful for it because of the memory it brings me when I drink it. When she first got her license, my friend Shannon and I would drive to the local Vons for Ben and Jerry's ice cream and hope to steal a look at the cute bagger we both had a little crush on. I would also grab a bottle of Squirt. On the way home, I was able to drink the whole bottle and burp with every gulp. It grossed Shannon out but it made both of us laugh.

9. Milk. It's yummy. It must be consumed so cold it might give you a headache. It gives my bones strength and I like bone strength.

8. Iced Tea...I can't drink it without thinking of a group of girls (Carol is one of them!) who used to meet me at Denny's once a month for almost 5 years. We'd drink iced tea, eat salads or fried mozerella sticks or ice cream and and we'd laugh and cry and carry each other through some big issues. These gals are my rock and I think of them each time I drink iced tea.

7. Diet Coke... It's the nectar of life. It runs through my veins.

6. Diet Dr Pepper... This one too.

5. Gatorade...When I walked the Breast Cancer 3 Day with my friend Amy, we trained like crazy and watched all the training videos and somehow ignored the part that told us to drink water and Gatorade equally. After Day One of drinking all water for 20 miles of walking, we couldn't figure out why it felt like our bones were rubbing together. My hubby had to remind me. On Day Two I was VERY thankful for Gatorade NOT making my bones feel like they were rubbing together.

4. Green Tea Latte with is my "go to" Starbucks order and I am thankful that even when money is tight and I can scrape enough together for a Sbux treat, my GTL is always so welcoming and lovely and comforting to my soul.

3. Barq's Root Beer...see numbers 7 and 6. Barq's has Bite!

2. Water...I am thankful for water. It is not my favorite drink. I don't drink nearly enough of it and the people who drink it exclusively are amazing in my eyes. But I love how my skin looks when I drink it, how I feel when I am putting enough of it in my body and how cute my one year old looks drinking it out of an oversized sippy cup.

1. Tea...I love tea. It is my "coffee." I am thankful for tea and how my hubby likes to buy it for me when he visits other cities. I love how tea's very existance (or non-existance, in this case) calls for my daughter to dress up, pull out all her teddy bears and set a beautiful table. I love that tea does the same thing for even grown up girls too.

Thank you for the time this week Carol, and thanks for giving me the chance to put my own spin on the Thankful Ten on Tuesday! (Even though it's been feeling like Monday all day, or is that just me?!)

Monday, May 25, 2009

I Remember.

I remember.
We are free in this country, well mostly. We are free from another country's control, we are free to make our own choices about who we pray to, we are free to pursue dreams...

and for that, I am thankful.

Thank you to all who have served.
Thank you to all that sacrificed their lives.

Friday, May 22, 2009

He Can See Clearly Now, The Blur is Gone...

Sometime after Christmas, and the addition of Guitar Hero to our household, we noticed Spencer just might need glasses. He had a tendency of being very close to the screen while he played, and leaning closer to read the scores. We tested him a little bit, and knew, he needed glasses.

Since he is not in a traditional classroom setting there was no blackboard, or whiteboard, or whatever board, to see. Everything he did was arms length. There didn't seem to be a problem reading so we waited, mostly to save the money we knew it would take to purchase the glasses.

Fast forward to a couple weeks ago, we finally were able to be seen and evaluated. The kid has 20/400 vision at least in the one eye. Translation: The 2nd line on the chart was blurry and hard to see.

His glasses arrived a few days later, and he was astonished at how much he can see now!
It is a miraculous thing indeed.

And he's cute in them too.


Thursday, May 21, 2009

Moving Right Along...

We have some friends at church that we are very fond of. Jenelle has become close with their kids and likes to hang out and watch Thursday night TV with them. This last week she kindly took Spencer with her because I needed to attend a wedding rehearsal. During the evening, after Spencer had a brief but enjoyable conversation with Alex, their 17 year old son, Spencer was heard saying :

"Even though we've only spent a little time together, I feel our friendship is really developing"

Yes, he's really only 8.


Wednesday, May 20, 2009

A Room Full

The air was filled with anticipation, and the room was filling with people as well. We settled in to our seats waiting to be welcomed, greeting each other. I was surprised to see so many state abbreviations on the name tags, OK, AK, IL, TX, SC, goodness, that one said Aulstralia!

I could smell a combo of pleasant perfume, hand soap from the restrooms, and farts.
Someone near us had some gas they apparently could not contain any longer. The meeting started, we sang, we greeted some more, we sat and listened, and the waft of fart would occasionally show up again.

Later, in completely new seats, surrounded by completely new people, the waft reached my nostils again. This time someone had eaten eggs, oh goody.
Thankfully it did not last the whole meeting.

I had to laugh a little. Life is life.

Tuesday, May 19, 2009

Thankful Ten On Tuesday

I am attending a Writer's Conference, right now. Yesterday was the first of 3 days filled with encouragement, advise, instruction and wisdom. More on that later...

1. Generosity of friends. Without it I couldn't be here.
2. Generosity of other friends, to watch my kid so I could be here.
3. Friends with air conditioning in their cars. (It was maybe 100 yesterday here)
4. Hotel breakfasts, it may not be the most grand, but a humble breakfast to get going is a good thing.
5. Bananas.
6. Vitimin Water 10...sweetened with Stevia, YEA! Something I can drink! (other than water) while I am out and about! (The other thing is Starbuck passion iced tea, woohoo!)
7. Humor. Delight in listening to a speaker is a wonderful thing.
8. Prayer team at Bethel in Redding, who pray over everyone in attendance, and ask blessings on you as you enter the rooms, you can feel the difference.
9. Cushy chairs.
10. Books. Stories. Essays. Blogs.

Wednesday, May 13, 2009

Don't Lie.

In our small house my children have to share a room. Kids across the world share rooms, no big deal. Heck, families share one room in some cultures....but not ours.
A 19 year old daughter and an 8 year old boy make for odd room mates.

Jenelle has to be at work by 5:45 am a couple mornings a week, so she heads to bed at the same time as Spencer. Last night she was nearly asleep when Spencer heard Aaron pull up from work, so he yelled...


This woke up Jenelle

" Spencer, stop it!"

" But Jenelle I hardly get to see him and when he's here he's always busy"

" You're lucky you even have a dad, most kids don't even have one"

"Jenelle, everyone technically has a dad, sperm is required. So don't lie. Some kids just don't get to see theirs".

You give a kid a little information.....

Tuesday, May 12, 2009

Thankful Ten Tuesday!

"It was hard, but I did it, and now it's done"
And I am THANKFUL, not only that it is done, and I survived, but for the journey and what I learned.

1. Childbirth. Twins being pushed out, son being C-section. Whew.
2. Although you are NEVER really done, I have 2 of my children into adulthood. Many years of their childhood I was a single mom. I was not all alone because of support from my family and fabulous group of friends, but I was alone in the home, I was the bottom line, total decision maker.
3. Moving, 18+ times in 20 years.
4. Leading worship at women's retreat. That was a first as the leader, I have assisted for years, and now I feel equipped to do it again.
5. Getting my BA, with kids. ADVICE: Get it done before kids.
6. Facing Debt. Okay, it's not over, but we have jumped some major hurdles now...we are on our way. ADVICE: Don't do anything that will result in debt. Even a house or a college degree may not be a good idea.
7. Hearing, and acting on, information that someone hurt my daughter. It is by the grace of God alone that that man is still alive.
8. Miscarriage. Those who know, know. Those who don't, ... praise God.
9. Divorce. I am not proud or thankful that I HAD to get a divorce, but I am thankful it was an option, and that I was able to marry the right man for me later.

10. Depression. Sometimes, I feel it's ugly spiny fingers tapping me on the back, trying to hold me, ready to drag me under into the abyss again. It will never drag me there again.

Which is why I have this Thankful list to begin with.

Your list doesn't have to be like could write a list of your 10 favorite flowers ...just be thankful!

Friday, May 8, 2009

Tuesday Will Be Here Before You Know It...

Subject for the Thankful Ten Tuesday list:

"It was hard, but I did it, and now it's done"

Please join me in thankfulness on Tuesday may 12th with a list of your own!

Fine Tuning

I am being sponsored to go to a writer's seminar. It's in just under 2 weeks, about 3 hours from my home.

I am blown away by the generosity of the person sending not only me but another woman who needs to embrace writing. Our sponsor's gift of encouragement is astonishing.

I have been looking over the break out session options...should I take classes on the process of writing, the editing , or how to communicate with the publishing world? What will the main sessions include? Will I hear what I need to hear to get my tail in motion again?
Oh, the unknown!

I love the journey. I do. As much as I like to see results and be accomplished, the journey is a thrilling ride now. It isn't an "Are we there yet?" moment in my life. Look out the window, look at the scenery! Enjoy the changes you see and feel. I am NOT who I was in high school, I am NOT who I was in my 20's , I am NOT who I was a few years ago, and for that, I am thankful. How can someone ever claim , "Those were the best years of my life"?? How do they know? They still may be coming, look for them!

All this to say, I am thankful, and I am excited. I have no idea what's next but I am looking forward to the ride!

Thursday, May 7, 2009

Baby Titus Update.

The burn center said he will most likely NOT have scarring. How amazing is that?
He has to go through some tough days ahead. I will not go into details. Please pray for his pain management, thanks.

Wednesday, May 6, 2009


I have nothing else to say other than this:

Please take a moment to pray for Titus. A 1 year old grandson of a dear sweet friend. He pulled boiling water down onto himself yesterday. His entire face and head and arms are wrapped up in bandages and today he was seen by the burn unit in Sacramento. I have no other details.

My daughter did nearly the same thing at age 18 months, but I assume not as badly considering the amount of bandages he has.

Please just pray for him.


Tuesday, May 5, 2009

Thankful Ten Tuesday!

I forgot to come up with a topic for this weeks list!
I was kinda busy...

SO ...
things that make life easier when you are really busy:

1. Frozen Gyoza
2. Rice cookers
3. Crockpots
4. Fast beauty routines
5. Wash and wear clothing
6. Slip on shoes
7. Cell phones
8. Drive through bank tellers
9. Google maps
10. Friends!!

I know you are thankful for something...what is it?!


Monday, May 4, 2009

In A Blaze Of Glory

Well, the title might suggest that I bombed, horrifically, but with much fanfare, but actually, things went well! I was humbled by the graciousness of those I was leading. It was a good weekend.

A note about my friend, LouAnn...the surgery went well, but on the way home she had an allergic reaction to Lidicaine, it made her cough uncontrollably and nearly stopped her breathing. They obviously turned around and she was given a breathing treatment. Scary stuff. She was at retreat, but in pain. She played keyboard along with the tracks that she has for when she travels alone (without our band). She is not allowed to speak for 7 days. She wrote messages on a white board, it made it interesting. Her strength amazes me.

A few highlights:

I completely had a melt down, sobbed, moments before I had to go on stage. Those that have known me for a long time know...I am an actress, I have performed numerous times, numerous ways in numerous places. Being on stage wasn't the issue, this was different. Lou Ann , AKA Silent Louie, hugged me, and mouthed "Have Fun", which totally made me laugh in my present state of panic. My eye's were puffy, my face was red, but I stood in the promise that I was doing what I was supposed to be doing. God met me there, in my panic, and calmed me, and when it was time for me to walk up there and sing, I was fine.

IBS. Yep. I get that from time to time. It showed up Saturday morning after breakfast. I was extremely careful with what I ate, but it happened anyway. Again, prayers said for me, it calmed down and wasn't a problem when I went to lead those women in worship.

Missed a note, or line or two...and heard all the women keep going. Singing to a track is very different to a live band, and I hadn't practiced with tracks, I practiced with the CD versions of songs. Lou Ann wrote many of the songs we sing, and most of these women have her CD's they knew the music, they were singing the words not just from memorization, but from their hearts. It was truly beautiful.

My time on the mountain ended in confidence, and joy. I was asked to lead women into worship, that was accomplished. More importantly, one of the speakers had a word for me, and although I will not share what she said, it gave me great hope and set me free of some old stuff.

I will never be the same, and that's a good thing.