Sunday, April 19, 2015

Highly Creative? THAT'S ME!

Highly creative people in your life? READ THIS

Although this list isn't 100% accurate for me personally, between my husband and I, and then throw in our kids, and while you are at it, my entire family...there we are.
It explains a lot.

Saturday, April 18, 2015

That's No Bird.

Some people have shoulder angels, some have parrots.
I've only met one gal with a shoulder bunny.

Friday, April 17, 2015

A Different Kind of Skill Set

In my recent job searches I have discovered a great lack on my part of some very desirable skills. For instance, code writing, web design, and IT skills.

I beat myself up all last week as the fabulous sounding work places demanded skills I just don't have at this time. I am outmoded.

I became depressed. For real.
Fresh faced hipster software ninjas are ruling the world apparently.

There are some pretty amazing personality type break downs out there in the world. Let's face it, we all want to be understood. These formulas break people down into categories, you are this and that and your spouse is this polar opposite thing. You know the ones. Some of them even clearly define who would get along best with who. Which leads me to :

SKILL 1: Mediator
I test in the middle on many of these tests. I flit between introvert and extravert by one point all the time. I test evenly between odd types, logic and emotion, concrete and abstract. You know what that means? It means I speak your language...which one? ALL OF THEM. Well maybe not all, but many. I am an excellent communicator, and better still, translator. Type A not able to effectively communicate with  Type B? I am your person. I understand both sides and can usually help each side see more clearly what the other one is talking about.

Over time one would recognize in me a great attention to detail, but sometimes in a unconventional way. I may notice what you are wearing, that there is a small tear, or stain, or perhaps you highlighted your hair. I don't mention I noticed, I just do. I perceive smells, moods, and atmosphere in a room. I also take mental note of things in the room, like photographic memory, which leads to the following two skills:

SKILL 2: Excellent finding capability
Need something? I can hunt it down. Lost something? I often find things for people. Been searching for just the right shade of blue, or lamp, or dress, document, rare book, statistic, poll, report, information of a medical condition, lost earring?...I have the skills. This includes physical or internet.

SKILL 3: Continuity. I may not catch all flaws in a movie, but I catch more than I'd like too. I wish I didn't because sometimes it just ruins the scene for me. Changing beverage or candle heights, right hand vs left, cloak buttoned or open. I am not perfect at this skill, and it would stress me out if tested, but it is a natural response to my surroundings, I simply notice things.

SKILL 4: Uplifting those who need it.
Some call this a pep talk, others encouragement. I call it speaking truth and telling it like it is. I not only help you see what I see, but help you come up with a plan to fulfill stuff. I may not be the best at implementing this on myself, but I have someone who does it for me as well. This is tied into skills 2 & 3, recognition of someones potential.

SKILL 5: Amazing Question Asker
Some over the top dreamers don't necessarily like this part of me...I ask the realistic questions on how to get to point Z from A. I ask for clarity, I ask so we can make a plan. I like big dreaming, but what good is a big dream if you never figure out how to get there? Logistics specialist. This skill works in tandem with skill 2 quite well.

These are just some highlights. I have a BA in Organizational Leadership  and office skills as well. I have a great phone voice and persona. I may not be able to write the newest viral app, but I am still valuable.

Thursday, April 16, 2015

I Suddenly and Painfully Get It

Mid life crisis can look very different for individuals.
There are of course traditional, stereo typed responses:
Buying a sports car
Tattoos (Maybe it's a newer response)
Life career change
Divorce (sad)
Re-decorate home
Take classes, pottery, art, dancing, cooking, languages or who knows what.
Have a baby?

I don't know, stuff like that.

I have been doing a lot of research lately. It started innocently enough, we need a place to live.
But to get a place to live we have to know where we NEED to live.
To do that we need to know what we are supposed to do next, work at a church again? Something else?
What openings are available and where?
Who are they, what do they believe?
What is the area like? Cost of living? Bowen therapy licensing rules?
What other jobs could I do?


Except most of the openings I am finding require a skill set I do not have, and apparently being a hipster is required too. Some sites are so into using trendy lingo that you can't tell what they actually do, but they do it with gusto and excellence. Well good for you guys! Job titles are things like Happiness Harnesser. Yes well, that's interesting, but what do you do? You can't even tell by the requirements...I appreciate that they are willing to look at people without specific degrees and years of experience, but at least those things would help me figure out what IS required! I am a fabulous customer service rep, is that what you are looking for?  Can't tell.

I had a rough time last week feeling more and more outmoded with each new website I researched.
I am not yet an empty nester, but it will happen in a couple years. I get it, I get what happens to these people. You have been focused, and all energy went to your family, and then you are ready to re-enter the work world,and bam, the technology, lingo and age range desired has left you in the dust. I am not very old either. I am educated, and tech literate, not a guru, but literate.I have skills people!

I am also frustrated.

Wednesday, April 15, 2015

So Wasteful

This is simply a rant.
We had to sign up for insurance this year.
We have 3 currently in our family, we listed who is head of household, spouse and kid, all with the same address...

We all received identical packets in the mail, even though one form could be turned in for the whole family. 3 copies of each letter, each list, and worse, each booklet.

We received 3 letters of welcome, 3 letters of "Do you need help" , and three of "We don't have your answer yet".

Then, after choosing, we received three letters saying we would receive more things in the mail.
Then the insurance cards came, in three separate envelopes, which this one I can understand a little more.

Then 3 giant provider handbooks showed up, all separate, but rubber banded together.

Envelopes, postage, work hours, trees!

It would take a small box to check saying we only need one per the family, how much could be saved?

To top this off, while trying to choose I called the number given to in that literature (three times), and the person on the end of the line couldn't answer any of my questions, said I had to call each provider myself.
I ask out right what was his purpose if he didn't have any information.
"I answer questions about how to fill out the form"

It is your name and which provider you choose, as in, you check a little box.

Rant done, but I am shaking my head.

Tuesday, April 14, 2015

In A Moment

One of my daughters got married a few days after Christmas.
It's been a long road. There was rebellion and there was trauma, and well, I love her so much, but I really wondered if she was really going to be okay in life.

Then she posted this photo on her blog

And I knew, the moment I saw it, just that one moment frozen, she is going to be alright.
It was like looking at a big sigh of relief.
As soon as I have our own place again, this one is being printed and hung on the wall.

Monday, April 13, 2015

Nothing Remains the Same

Oh wait, some stuff does...
We are still living with friends,
 however Spencer has his own room, Glory Hallelujah.

We still do not have a full time job of any sort,
But God has provided on going regular work for Aaron. It's amazing.

We still do not know what's next.
But we are starting to look beyond survival and dream big...

Like really big. It's slightly exciting, and a little terrifying, and exciting.

I am doing a lot of research.

More on that another day...soon(ish)